Recently there was a viral story about a bride who sent an invoice to a couple who had RSVP’d to attend her wedding and reception but, at the last minute, were unable to. Whether you agree with her strategy (I don’t!) we can certainly understand her frustration. It’s very difficult to get an accurate guest count for your reception. You will probably have guests who told you they would be there who actually won’t make it and those will be offset by guests who never RSVP’d in the first place (“Oh, honey, you knew we wouldn’t miss your wedding!”)
So that we’re all on the same page . . . RSVP is an acronym for the french “repondez, s’il vous plait” and means “Respond, if you please.” It requests a response to an invititation whether you are attending or not but the “or not” part is not understood as well as it could be. I would advise something along the lines of “RSVP attending or not” just so you aren’t left wondering. We have brides who tell us they have RSVPs from 80 guests, for instance, but assume 100 will attend because they haven’t heard back from quite a few of their guests. Since at Thunderbird Chapel the only time the guest count matters is for the reception that can be quite an expensive omission for guests to make.
Best advice would be to give them a pretty tight deadline to respond on the theory that if the deadline to respond is a month away it’s pretty easy to set that invite aside and neglect to RSVP at all. If you give them a week then they are less likely to ignore it for the time being. Give them a couple of different ways to respond; phone call, text or email work well and don’t involve them finding paper, pen and postage! And then don’t worry about it. You did all you could do and it’s their upbringing that will determine whether they respond, not yours!
We are very flexible at Thunderbird Chapel and we understand the challenges you face determining your guest count. We suggest not padding your count for those who don’t respond because you’ll probably have positive responses who actually don’t show up. We can accommodate more or less than expected and it won’t phase us. The less you have to worry about the more you’ll enjoy the whole endeavor! And that’s the most important part.
This past weekend was one of the most amazingly beautiful backdrops to a wedding that we’ve ever had at Thunderbird Chapel. And the fun part is that we had not one, not two but three weddings at the chapel this weekend! The ice storm left the trees all over the property covered with not only ice but icicles, also. Any light, sunshine, etc. turned each tree or bush into an incredible ice sculpture. The weather before the ice storm hit was pretty warm so the ground was warm and the parking lot was clear but everything else was covered with ice. Unfortunately the camera simply didn’t capture the scene though I tried. We hope that each of our couples lives together are as beautiful as their first day together as a married couple.
Our trees are changing their leaves out for the new fall colors and they are pretty! True that we don’t have trees on fire like New England but we have several varieties that are really nice. If you want to get a date in the fall for next year now is the time to book it. Our Saturdays are almost full but we’ve got a couple left in November 2015 so call today for your tour! After all, we are, in our humble opinion, the best wedding chapel in Oklahoma.
We just sent in our paperwork so we’ll have a booth at the February 24th Perfect Wedding Guide Bridal Show. We’re excited! Besides being the absolute best value and most beautiful wedding chapel or venue in the Oklahoma City – Norman metroplex we are also always striving to stay up on wedding trends. One of the best ways for us to do this is to attend bridal shows. It’s crucial for the photogs, DJ, planners, etc. to stay up on the trends, Since we’re always at the chapel hosting weddings we don’t always get to see what’s happening in the wedding business. But other vendors, like photogs, DJs planners, etc. work different venues, and they get to see what’s hot and what’s not. So our attending a bridal show is an easy way for us to catch up on what’s happening.
Obviously we also get to get our name out there in front of a bunch of brides and their attendants. Since the venue is pretty much the first thing a bride signs up for (no dates can be set until the venue is hired) we don’t really have that many brides at a bridal show who need our services. But their attendants may be going to get married someday and maybe they’ll remember that fabulous, beautiful and relatively inexpensive wedding chapel in Norman . . .
That’s our marketing plan, anyway!
From a bride’s point of view there is absolutely nothing that will save you more time than attending a nice bridal show. It’s your one chance to meet more vendors than you could possibly visit on your own.
So if you’re at the show make sure you come by our booth and say “Hello!”